Friday, June 28, 2013

Reclaiming Your Righteous "No"

The most powerful word God has given us, to love ourselves the way He does, is to use the word NO. To say no to ungodliness. To say no to abuse. To say no to people tempting us away from God's best for our lives. To say no to people who spread things about us that are not true to who we are and to how God sees us. To say no to ungodliness.  This might mean saying no to those who have hurt us, but it might just mean we pray and don't allow ourselves to be pulled under by someone else's actions.

People who have been abused, traumatized or even have been wounded by sexual sin as a child ... have often lost their ability to say no to controlling, manipulating and abusive people - even when that abuse is so subtle you can barely see it but your heart can feel the shame and condemnation that comes through their quiet disapproving words or looks.

Jesus, used the word no powerfully when he rebuked Satan when speaking through Peter and when he challenged the Pharisees when the Gospel in all it's forms (preaching, teaching, healing, etc..) was moving forward.

It might not of came out of his mouth in the word "no" but he stopped the movement of what was ungodly and unloving with some sort of action, word or prayer.

I think He might want us to do the same thing. I think He might want a Godly courage through the power of the Holy Spirit to arise and say no in a Godly, loving and truthful way.

Don't feel guilty for saying no. That is often the enemy's way to keep you silent. Saying no, can be a sign that we are partnering with God's heart for us and for others. Maybe it is not you who have lost your no, but you know someone who is being abused who has? Help them discover their God given ability to say no. Do what you can to help them out of the darkness and into the light. Help to strengthen them and encourage them today.

Jesus said, "...love others AS you love yourself". Loving yourself well is not a sin it is the beginning of loving others well. God wants us to love ourselves well.

Why? Because He does. So much He died for us - for you and for me, and for all of those around you. God created us in His image, to be filled with His love so those God has put into our lives might know Him.

God, release the power of a Godly "no" in the hurting, the broken, the oppressed and the captives. Help those who lost their no find it and may they not feel guilty for saying no to ungodly actions towards them. Amen.










Monday, June 10, 2013

People Love Poorly ...

“Forgiveness is the name of love practiced among people who love poorly...

The hard truth is that all people love poorly... 

We need to forgive and be forgiven every day, every hour increasingly. 

That is the great work of love among the fellowship of the weak that is the human family...”

- Henri Nouwen.